Solitude Matters

“..being in the fog does not have to mean being altogether lost”

Joan Anderson, A Year By The Sea


When I am engrossed in life, I can be overcome with the feeling that there is never enough time.  I tend to fall back on black-and-white, either-or, yes-or-no thinking. When I do not have time alone,  I find that I move through days reacting and catching up, instead of responding and moving forward with intention and balance. Think about the word “alone”–it means “all one”.  When I am alone in solitude, I am “all one” with my self, tuning into all the crevices of my thoughts, feeings, experiences and wishes that are easily over-shadowed when I am reacting and catching up.

“sit still and listen…in time you will hear the answers”

When not distracted by the demands of others and life, you can (re) discover your true self (recall that person you are when on vacation or doing what you love), swapping out feeling run-down by life with feeling engaged in your  life.  In her book, A Year By the Sea, Joan Anderson listened intuitively to her inner voice and realized that she had a choice: she could continue to struggle against feeling lost in the fog, or she could embrace the murkiness- stop, breathe and  listen.  She took the risk and spent a year “just being”  by the sea, repairing and reviving her true self.   Reading about her  journey, I was “working up an appetite for just being” and fantasized about taking a year, a month or even a week retreat in order to re-focus.

“Don’t wait until you need a full year away from life in order to replenish yourself!”  I say.  Change your perspective about time and what you use time for- create moments of solitude.

Moments of solitude are moments away from the distractions and demands of everyday life and family.  Practicing solitude,  I find moments that give space for reflection, and discovering the treasures and answers to be found within  my own mind .  A favorite moment(s) of solitude is the early morning, before the world around me starts it’s day.  Whether I am practicing Balanced Breathing, reading, journaling or simply sipping my cup of tea–I am all one and open to receiving the treasures from within.  Oh sure, there are mornings I would rather sleep in, or can easily spend these moments seized by the lists of to-do’s awaiting me.  I put these thoughts aside, and remember that when I start my day with moments of solitude, I have more physical and emotional energy to engage with demands of the day and feel good while doing it!

Finding Your Balance:  Create moments of solitude throughout your day.

Maybe you are able to carve out 30 minutes each day; or, 10 minutes twice a day. Maybe you crave 20 minutes after work to replenish for the rest of the day by reading your favorite magazine or book. Maybe morning tea and balanced breathing puts the day’s needs into perspective.  Maybe a quite walk by yourself helps you return to  balance.

When you feel like you can not take time away from family or work, remember that your family will enjoy being with you and you will be more productive at work when you create moments of solitude to revive and replenish yourself.

What Moments of Solitude have you created?

Moments of solitude may not lift the fog completely, but they will let us see the road signs more clearly.

Posted: Tuesday, June 19th, 2012 @ 10:57 pm
Categories: Balance.
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One Response to “Solitude Matters”

  1. jennifer wurth Says:

    I took a hike alone in the mountains a couple of days ago, and it was so invigorating! I felt so happy and peaceful, I’ve decided to make it a regular trek. (Although I would enjoy sharing the beauty of this hike with you sometime!)
    Thanks .
    jenny

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