New Year’s Intentions

“We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives…not looking for flaws, but for potential.”  -Ellen Goodman

Do you still find yourself in the New Year’s resolution trap?  You know the one, January first finds you announcing ” I resolve to…” and February first finds you feeling shameful and self-loathing for not keeping that resolution.

I say: This year, let’s stop setting ourselves up for failure.  This year, let’s create an opportunity for genuine change by setting an Intention.   An Intention, “a course of action that one intends to follow, an aim that guides action, an objective.”  It’s a word from the Latin intendere, meaning to direct attention or to stretch toward something.

Setting an Intention is about setting a course to follow while on the journey  of  change.  Setting an Intention for change acts as our guide through the journey of change, rather than a yardstick in which to judge ourselves.  Setting an Intention becomes a healthier way of reaching our goals, then when we act from a place of want and insecurity.

“Our intention creates our reality.” Wayne Dyer

A few weeks before the New Year, I found myself feeling frustrated with a friend.  As we made plans to meet get together and discuss, I found myself rehearsing a one-sided conversation, practicing a strategy to win that conversation.  In a moment of clarity, I reminded myself that 1) I  liked and trusted this person , 2) a quick personal inventory assured me that it probably was not all about me! and 3) my red flags reminded me that I tend react this way when I am feeling vulnerable to others’ feelings…which means she was feeling vulnerable about her own feelings.

With clarity, came the Intention…the New Year’s Intention:

“When I find myself strategizing how to win that conversation, I will set an intention to listen to the other, listen to what I may learn about the other and about myself.”

So, instead of  starting the conversation from a place of frustration,  “I am so frustrated with you!  What is your problem? Get it together!”, it started from a place of concern and curiosity, sounding something like,  “It seems like something is going on with you.  I don’t know what it is, and I hope that you will talk to me about it.”   I set an intention to listen, and stretched myself by listening before blurting, and discovered something new …which led to a deeper level of connection.

Finding Your Balance:  Set your Intention for the Year.  Maybe you want to try this one, or create one based on an understanding of what matters  to you.  Write down your Intention…Tell someone your Intention…giving your Intention the space to settle in your mind and the Universe, guiding you, slowly, towards change throughout the year.

My curiosity is peeked, I look forward to hearing about your Intentions, now and throughout the year!

Posted: Thursday, January 10th, 2013 @ 4:45 pm
Categories: Balance, Change.
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One Response to “New Year’s Intentions”

  1. jennifer wurth Says:

    My intention for 2013 is for my friend Susan to visit OFTEN. I’m sending it out to the universe!!

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